One of the biggest changes in the funeral business has been the move away from religious ceremonies. These days you can do anything you like and at Essential Funerals we recommend and help you create a ceremony that is as unique as the life you are celebrating.
The reasons why ‘MY Way’ is one of the most popular pieces of funeral music is that people are doing exactly that. Most funerals now are created and conducted according to the culture, customs and language of the family. They are deeply personal.
Can I plan the funeral ceremony myself?
If you are planning the ceremony yourself, we recommend that you start by making a list of what you want to achieve: do you want it to be traditional and formal? innovative? informal? funny? What about traditions? Elements of ceremonial – military standard bearers ? What about dress code? Who will carry the coffin?
Constructing a ceremony
Golden rule – It all needs to be written down. You normally only have around 20 mins in a crematorium – so you need to think about that carefully. The next funeral will arrive on time. If its all written down you can keep an eye on timings, you can share it with others and you can ensure that they are happy with what is going to be said.
Speaking at a funeral is a very difficult and challenging thing to do. We are happy to help you and do as much or as little as you wish us to. You’re in charge and we are only here to help you create and deliver the ceremony that reflects your wishes.
Note about religious content – If you choose a celebrant from Essential Funerals, we don’t restrict you, its up to you. Many of us have some religious cultural heritage and at times many people want some content (e.g. a hymn) as a reflection of this heritage without wanting a religious ceremony.
Is it okay to be funny?
Like any life a ceremony will have highs and lows. Funny stories or jokes have a part to play but that’s not to say you will be trying to cover up the sadness. Its always good to include happy memories.
If you want a religious funeral ceremony, contact a faith leader who will normally have a format, a liturgy, which you will be able to personalise only to a certain extent.